I remember reading an article many years ago and it showed pictures of famous people and their desks. I kept this one because:
1. I love Tina Fey.
Tina has acheived amazing things in an industry that did not even think to add women’s bathrooms to their settings.
She has hurdled many obstacles and do so with grace, humor and honesty. She’s my lady crush.
2. This is what my life and practice felt like at the time.
I had a baby during chiropractic school and was the sole provider for my family for the few years after I graduated. We did it. Some days it looked better than other days. But we did it!
3. I wanted to stop feeling judgey or ashamed about the chaos.
The article showed MOST people’s desk were a mess. And it made me think about my practice and my expectations. For some reason I expected that I could be a connected mom, RUN my own practice, have my husband run his own practice and still have my hair and desk look perfect. And I also thought I should be a personal trainer, a great home decorator, a celebrated paleo chef, etc.
I decided that day to cut it out. To stop demanding perfection and start asking myself to stay in the game and keep making progress. Instead of looking ahead to some imaginary and glorified version of me, look back to where I was and see how I was coming along. Practice doesn’t demand that you be perfect. It doesn’t require that you be completely fearless, (I am afraid a lot. I just don’t let that part make all the choices) it does not REQUIRE that you be in a positive state all the time. It doesn’t require that you have fake confidence.
IT REQUIRES THAT YOU KEEP SHOWING UP. EVEN WHEN IT GETS MESSY.